June 28, 2009 | Filed under: Boys Are Dumb, Thinky

I want him to be cute and smart and funny, but doesn’t everybody say that?

I want him to be sensible and responsible and responsive to others’ needs.

I want him to have a job he likes and finds fulfillment in.

I want him to have a positive view of marriage and building a family. It would help if his parents are still together and actually like each other, but I recognize he’s not in charge of that particular dynamic.

I want him to have friends, some of whom will become my friends.

I want him to be good in bed. Yes, I said it.

I want him to come with only an overnight bag’s worth of baggage from previous relationships, if at all possible.

I want him to still be hopeful.

I want to walk down the street with him, holding hands. When we’re 60.

I want him to be athletic.

I want him to know, instinctively, that we’re on the same team. Some days we’ll be running a relay race, others we’ll be the core of an offensive line, but always we’ll have matching jerseys.

I want him to like his family.

I want him to like my family.

I want him to read and explore and travel and be willing to join me when I suggest something crazy like, “Let’s hike the Grand Canyon!” At the very least, I want him to willingly hold down the fort when I go off and do something crazy like hike the Grand Canyon.

I want it to last.

1. Michelle says:
   

   If you find him, check if he’s got a twin and send him down to me!! Pretty good list me thinks

   June 28th, 2009 at 9:14 pm
2. Jaelith says:
   

   Those guys are out there - I think I have one of them! BTW, hope your Dad is on the mend.

   June 28th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
3. Badgergirl says:
   

   I’m looking for many of those same things. Nice list.

   June 28th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
4. Superfantastic says:
   

   Preach it.

   June 29th, 2009 at 12:37 am
5. Emily says:
   

   Yep, I concur…excellent list. If you happen to discover where these elusive creatures are hiding, please let me know!

   June 29th, 2009 at 9:09 am
6. clk says:
   

   You will find each other & you’ll exceed everything on his list.

   July 2nd, 2009 at 8:29 pm
7. K says:
   

   Good luck! How’s your dad doing?

   July 7th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
8. Heather says:
   

   Sounds like you can take the girl out of the Midwest, but you can’t take the Midwest out of the girl. A perfect list, with Midwestern Boy written all over it!

   July 7th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
9. Sara says:
   

   Wow. Mine ticks every one of those boxes, except for the “athletic” one, but that’s OK because it’s never been something on my list. Thanks for reminding me how lucky I am!

   July 11th, 2009 at 11:28 am
10. Kat says:
    

    I, too, had a list and read it every day until I found him on the Internet, almost 14 years ago (I seem to find everything of importance on the Internet). I hope you find the guy who has everything on your list.

    July 19th, 2009 at 7:12 pm
11. chrystal says:
    

    Can you post something new, please? Not that I don’t like or totally agree with your list but…I’m ready for something else!

    September 19th, 2009 at 5:33 pm